Establishing a strong bond with your children is an essential part of parenting. It helps your kids feel secure, protected and understood and created an unshakeable trust between you.
When raising my kids, I wanted to provide stability and an emotional connection between us. So I made it a point to provide them with love and support by following these five steps:
Don't judge them, be patient with them, listen to them, ask questions, and show affection.
It wasn't easy at first, and I often had to remind myself not to raise my voice and be more understanding. But that did not discourage me because I knew I had to pull through for my children. My patience, effort, and unyielding love began to pay off when I noticed subtle changes in their behavior. They were more willing to talk and share their feelings with me. I also saw a remarkable improvement in their academic performance. The emotional bond I had built with my children made them more confident, resilient, and resilient to cope with life's hardships. Through this experience, I had the wonderful privilege of watching my kids grow into responsible and independent individuals. This experience has taught me the importance of having an emotional bond between parent and child. Being emotionally connected cannot be achieved overnight but through hard work, determination, and love over time.
The same emotional connection is needed for children in foster care because, in most cases, they do not have or have it, but it is unhealthy. When children have trauma, attachment disorders and many issues to work through, connecting with them authentically can be difficult, even when you are trauma-informed. The main reason is that one-day things seem great, and the next day you don't even recognize them. That's the honeymoon or rollercoaster effects of trauma-informed parenting, being able to parent through whatever comes your way.
At the end of an evening of laughter, jokes, and stories, parents often forget about one of the essential aspects of parenting – forming an emotional connection with their children. It's as if this part of parenthood flew unnoticed and neglected, but the truth is that it should never be overlooked. When children feel understood and accepted, they feel secure and supported. A deep emotional connection, however, is harder to achieve than most belief. It isn't enough to love your children – it is also necessary to learn how to communicate with them. One way to accomplish this is not to judge them. Always remember that they are still learning and that everyone makes mistakes. Be patient with them and always listen to their point of view. Ask questions to get to know them better, and show affection in kind words and hugs. Many moments can bring parents and children closer together, such as playing outside, eating dinner, or simply sharing stories about each other's day. There is no better time for a parent to make an effort to connect emotionally with their child.
It is worth noting that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to forming an emotional bond with your child. Every parent and child is unique, and what works for one family may not work for another. However, the effort to create a secure, trusting, and understanding connection between parents and their children is a must. After all, it is just days, weeks, and years of building relationships and memories, one moment at a time.